letting go of the past

hi peeps..

don't get me wrong.. this time.. this post isnt for me... but for a person close to me..

this friend of mine is actually courting a girl.. but can't seem to focus with it.. why?? because he may not admit it.. he is still clinging to his past..

i have talked to my friend and ask him how he feels about the girl he was courting.. he told me he is interested.. very much interested to the point that he is actually making plans for his future with the girl he likes.. but what is stopping him?

one time, he was browsing his facebook account.. and he came across the profile of his ex girlfriend. upon browsing her pics.. he realized he still have feelings for her.. pained.. yet he seem to still keep the feelings.. hidden somewhere within..

its sad to know the painful truth if i were the girl.. the fact still lies inspite of courting me.. the guy is still holding on to the past.. I myself had been there.. being with guys coming from a painful heartbreak.. me, acting like a fall back.. never knowing when the guy will actually let go of the past and focus on me for the future.. well apparently it didnt happen.. as what you have guessed.. the relationship ended... in the end.. it will be atleast 2 people or more could get hurt in the process... the girl, the guy for hurting the girl and possibly the girl whom the guy love so much..

piece of advice: before going or entering another relationship, make sure that you are ready to let go of the past.. fix all loop holes and mend all open wounds.. so that by the time you are into your new relationship.. you are starting anew and you can give more focus with your new relationship..

Also avoid comparing.. you will never find the new one better cause you have been with the old one for so long.. learn to give the new one a chance to be themselves.. not trying to compete with your past...